I would like everyone here to know you gave me a lot of confidence to do what I think are some beginning stages of what needs to be done. Today my fiancé and I talked to his father who delt the most closely with their mother who suffered from alcoholism and ultimately passed away due in part to alcoholism and pills.
We all decided collectively as a family to get in touch with specialists in our area and look into AA meetings and meeting for family members so that we can all better understand what happened to their mother and what he is also going through and what we can do to support him and help him in this. We all understand we can only do really as much as we can and try an help him.
This makes me feel so much better knowing that it's not just me any more and that now as a family we can all do this together. Today I also went through all our cabinets found any sleep aids refilled my perscriptions and bought a case to lock them in a hidden box in our room. I think as much as our lives will change it shouldnt leave me unable to deal with what I need to deal with as well I just need to keep them in a place where he can't get them. Any other sleep aids were thrown out. I found several bottles of alcohol hidden through the house and got rid of them too. Until we can get to talk to a specialist and therapist we don't want to get rid of all his alcohol so we left what he had recently bought.
My fiancé and I are not drinkers really and don't care if we don't drink anymore and are willing to not have it in our house if that's what it means. Ultimately what we want is our brother to be safe happy and healthy.
I will try to keep updates as things go on. But I wanted to thank everyone for givin me some direction and a way to move forward I felt very lost and hopeless. I now feel like we have somewhere to go. Thank you so much for all your support.