Thank you for this. I realize that in living with AXBF, I was unable to discuss any issues regarding our relationship with him and so everything would just keep piling up until I would explode during a stressful time when I just could not handle things. He always had things to do and would basically just overlook me. Whenever he would talk to me, it was always about him and what he had going on, what he was doing, what his problems and concerns were. Whenever I would try to speak, he would interrupt me or it seemed his eyes would roll back in his head or something. If I was able to get a word in edge-wise and calmly talk about the problem, he would reply with something like, "Well I just suck," or something like that. We could never discuss anything objectively or come to any constructive agreement.
Thanks again for your post. It is helping me this morning.