You gotta let go of that stinkin thinkin, L2L.
Addicts are not emotionally available to have intimate relationships. Period.
And from what I've seen from recovering A's...a small percentage of them go on to productive grown up lives while a large percentage of them remain emotionally unavailable, unable to take personal responsibility for themselves and their choices.
One of my favorite quotes from this forum is "When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change" ~ Wayne Dyer