Originally Posted by
dancingnow 
Sometimes I think my RAH starts looking at what I'm not doing right when he starts veering off his path of recovery and is forgetting to focus on his responsibilities. Sometimes I do the same.
I had the same experience off and on throughout the 18 months of sobriety, and now we are divorcing because he believes "God wants him to be free" and he has convinced himself that I won't live with him again (we are separated).
Factoring into that is a whole bunch of other stuff that really boils down to criticism and lack of personal responsibility and you have my stbx defined perfectly.
I believe its projecting. You know your limitations and strengths. If he doesn't appreciate it, that's his problem, not yours.
I agreed to this divorce because I am so damn tired of feeling like I have to prove myself to someone else. That is not a healthy relationship.