Sometimes I think my RAH is just a little boy waiting for his momma to show up. The perfect momma that he never had and that he expects to take care of everything perfectly the way he thinks it should be so that he does not have to deal with any stress or anxiety. I believe his once alcohol soaked brain now tells him that he actually has to face reality and it is just so hard to do when not under the influence so it must be me that is the one who will take care of everything perfectly and as we all know I am human so perfect doesn't happen and so RAH often cannot deal with this.
Maybe this is what you are talking about.
Your post made me want to rant about what happens with me and my RAH.
((((HUGS))) You have a big long list of what you are responsible for.
Sometimes I think my RAH starts looking at what I'm not doing right when he starts veering off his path of recovery and is forgetting to focus on his responsibilities. Sometimes I do the same.