Thank you everyone for all your advise and support. There's so much here for me to read and hopefully learn from. We will have to definitely make tighter ground rules for him it just feels funny because we aren't his parents. And I'll defiantly to try Nd stop cleaning up after him and making more Active decisions and repercussions to his actions. Thankfully we don't have any children in our house yet and it's just us 3 but I know we want to continue with our lives and help him find safe and even footing in his.