same place at year 10
I am now in yr 27 of this up and down cycle. It has not all been bad and have had alot of good. I was scared since I had 2 young boys and was not working or only working part time. Now I have a full time job the boys are 19 and 22 and I have been in counseling for a year. It is long past overdue but I now feel ready. I asked my AH to leave last Nov and he did. He did not drink for 4 months but as soon as we started Marriage counseling he started again. Not sure he gets it yet but I have not had any contact with him for the last week and a half since our last counseling session after which he said he had to quit on his own terms. Please do what you need to do and not let it drag on it only gets worse with time. Sorry if I am rambling just dont want someone else to waste the best years of their life. The Alcoholic will not change until they are ready. You can do this!!!