Originally Posted by
Softball27 
Do I cut all ties or do I keep the lines of communication open?
I tried the detachment method with my son and it resulted in some pretty traumatic episodes for me. It's so hard to ignore the elephant in the room and just act like everything is fine.
It is nice to see them alive and tell them you love them, but it's still very stressful.
He's got a good recovery going right now (knock on wood), but if we ever have to go back there again, I will not be around him when he appears high.
I will not ignore or minimize it, I will ask him to leave.
If that doesn't cut it, I will go no contact.