I am so sorry Softball. There is NOTHING nice about addiction, in fact...it's pure evil!! Please keep reading here, there are so many mother's (parents) dealing with an addicted adult child. Many who have experienced the hope and heartbreak of failed detoxes, rehabs, and sober living. Please read the stickies as well. There is some great information for parents there.
Until your daughter decides to get clean and sober...there is nothing you can do. She is telling you that by her own actions. Helping her now will only hurt her.