Growing up, I was always told " I should" and that my decisions were not my own, or that I had to do this or that. I came to learn to not trust my inner voice since my parents pretty much spoke for me.
I've ignored my instincts for so long, even though they yelled, pleaded and begged me to listen.
When I was with the ex of 5 yrs (the alcoholic), my insides were yelling at me "Something is amiss here, don't see him" but I thought it was BS, that I was nuts since he was the perfect package on the outside.
Now after my rock bottom, I will never ignore my instincts again. And it not just that I ignored them, but didn't speak the language so could not make out what it was saying.