IMHO the reason he is not asking any of the questions, is because he is not committed to his recovery. It's all a smoke screen, and the guy behind the screen is the exact same active alkie.
You are not stuck, you are holding yourself back.
You are allowing his disease to control YOUR life, and that is not healthy.
Cutting back on his drinking, is not a step towards recovery. He is simply trying to pacify you.
Careful now, if you do not make healthy choices for yourself, you will be his doormat. Perhaps its the perfect time, for both of you, to take a step back and work separately on yourselves. What do you have to loose? The current situation is not working.
Keep posting, you are not alone.