Hello, and welcome.
I was a binger,too. Then it turned into every other day, thinking I wasn't an alcoholic because I didn't drink every day. Boy, was I wrong.
I drank in the morning, I drank at noon, I drank at night. This went on for twenty years.
Alcoholism is progressive. I've sworn it off, made solemn vows and quit for a week, or month, at a time.
Thing was, I always went back to the bottle.
I truly hope you don't reach the low points I did. Horrible anxiety, panic attacks, lies, deception, they were all part of it.
Heck, I joined here like five years ago and I've been sober two and a half years. Took me awhile to get it. Alcohol was ruining my life.
What works for me, is thinking that first drink through to the end and the ramifications it'll bring. I was near hopeless, but I'm recovering.
Lot's of people find AA a great support group. Then you'll have more than your wife to be responcible to.
You'll find lots of support here. And I encourage you to post as often as you need to.
Best wishes.