Shawty, I hope you realize that the alcoholic man in your life is emotionally very abusive. Red flags went off all over the place reading this post. I'm new and don't know your story, so forgive me if I am pointing out what you are very aware of.
no need for apologies. i'm actually just starting to come to this realization, myself. only took me two years and MANY break-ups!!
thank you.