Vale,
Thanks for the post, I don't know what kind of situation you were in but one thing I am trying very hard to do is not to take this personally. He is in his active addiction - the disease is running his life at this point not him. I can tell the difference. I am not negating his responsibility in all this - just saying. See we think about all of this in a rational and logical way - they don't. We are trying to understand and make sense out of something that we can't understand and doesn't make sense.