I have been following this thread and feel I need to add experience from an addict.
Deuce, my heart goes out to you. You don't have any idea what you are getting into. When us addicts are using we are liars, thieves, and manipulators. All we care about is getting our next high. We will do what we have to in order to get high. We don't care who or how we hurt a person.
You aren't doing him any favors. He needs consquences for his addiction. Does he even want to quit getting high? If a person isn't having any consquences, why would they quit? Does his counselor know he gets high?
My prayers are with you and your husband!!