Ever hear of the Law of Attraction? It says, "You attract into your life that which you think about most of the time." Examine your own thoughts, your side of the street.
I believe that sometimes we try too hard. I believe that so often I WANT something so bad, that I do not enjoy life because I am so busy being mad that I don't HAVE what I want.
I don't know what a "doughy" man is but maybe spend less time evaluating the people you DO meet, and spend a little more time just being a woman with a man. Try practicing staying in the Present Moment, remaining Aware of everything around you, and Accepting people for who they are and not what we want them to be. It's a tall order huh? I know, I struggle with all of that too.
Hope you're feeling better soon. Look for the positive, be grateful for all the blessings of your life.