I've always had an easy time finding and making friends, because I love to be social.
I lost friends in the past because I was pretty bossy and some friends came forward to tell me. Since being in Al Anon for the last 3 yrs, I've pretty much learned how to just accept people /friends for who they are.
Correcting people, be rigid and having a list of what you want will keep you lonely. Just get out there, have fun, say yes to every invite, laugh, smile and people will gravitate towards you.
It's not about looks at all....I have friends of all shapes, sizes and looks. when you're happier, friends will find you, you won't have to find them
Why are you going on dated with men you don't like?
Maybe stop assuming everyone is not good enough and try to find their wonderful sides?
You can join all the groups in the world, but if you have a negative attitude, you won't make one friend