I have a hard enough time trying to figure out me! I'm sure one day you will have a talk with her and you'll then understand her point of view. For now, just focus on you and your recovery. My sponsor reminds me "what others think of you is none of your business!" This keeps me sane. "More will be revealed" and in time, I often find out the answers to my questions.
Stay strong, stay stopped, and keep moving forward! Be proud of the changes you're making to yourself!
Hugs,