I had some similar issues when I got divorced in 2006. Didn't have any friends. Seemed like everyone was busy. I asked all the time if people wanted to go to the movies, go bowling, go see a band, etc. Nothing. So I moved to manhattan where there is always something to do and a lot more people to meet, and a lot of intellectual types that had interesting things to say and interesting lives to learn about. I see you're in NY but what part of the state?