Thank you to everyone that has been in a similiar situation and for sharing how it went. Not a lot of good outcomes; my heart goes out to all of you.
I worry mostly that the situation will get out of control and then my husband will feel like he failed.
My husband doesnt have it in mind to set a lot of strict rules because he said it would be pointless. He is trying to set only a couple that will hopefully be followed.
Much information here, and I plan to go back and read your old post SeekingGrowth. Such a tragedy or you; Im so sorry.