Curmudgeon, Electrical Engineer, Guitar God Wannabe
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Where the mighty arms of Atlas hold the heavens from the Earth
Posts: 3,403
Deuce...
What you and your husband did shows you have a big heart. But I believe you bit off more than you can chew by taking this young man in. He made a poor choice by leaving rehab against doctor's advice, and the reason he's not improving with therapy is because he's not invested in his recovery. You get what you put into it.
The safest thing for you and your husband is the young man goes to live somewhere else. You can't help him. He can only help himself.
Crazybabie made a very good observation about locking up all your valuables. If he's still in active addiction, expect the worst and prepare for it.
What you and your husband did speaks highly of both of you. But remember: those in active addiction do not appreciate such generosity.
God Bless.
ZoSo