it sounds to me like his real mother has worked REALLY hard to get to the point where she has the strength and courage to put his bags on the doorstep...and now friends of her deceased husband are going to step up and enable...and create another soft landing for addiction.
saying he got the drugs from NA is neither here nor there...sounds like a typical manipulative lie. re: "look I was doing what I was supposed to be doing and then the drugs showed up at a place you told me to go for recovery"
BS!!! this is a way to deflect blame AND make a codie doubt the recovery power of NA at the same time...look what happened, he got off the hook, people sympathize and turn against NA...how convenient for the addict.
he needs a bottom
your husband can certainly offer E, S & H if the lad wants it, they can meet for coffee and have a nice chat
right now all he wants is a crash pad, a new enabler...how frustrating for his mom!!! I hope she has some sort of recovery community!