Yes, in time the pain will ease
I don't think anyone here can tell you whether or not this will be his wake up call, and if you asked him to leave just to get him to sober up, I'm afraid you will be disappointed.
As sad as it is and as difficult as it was for many of us to accept when we first arrived at SR.......this is his battle to fight, and there is nothing you can do to influence the outcome. You can only prolong the battle by enabling him (doing things for him that he should/could be doing himself, paying his bills, giving him money).
I'm so sorry you are hurting. You are among people who truly understand.
