Hi carmel01, Welcome to SR!
So sorry to hear about what brings you to SR, but you have found a great place for support!!
IMHO, protecting the children is always the right thing. Sadly, the right thing is often not the easy thing, is it.
Please make yourself comfortable. Read as much as you can, including the 'stickies' at the top of the forum (they contain a lot of great information). Welcome, again!