Jennirey

Hello, New here. My name is Jen. My 21 year old daughter is finally in rehab for drugs.. mostly opiates and benzo's, But she had been using MJ and Alcohol since she was 14 as well... the problem drugs were pills though..The ones that caused her to have blackouts and legal problems and become so disorganized and get off path of her life.. She has lost her job, had to drop out of school been arrested 6 times since last September and broken one foot, had an accidental OD and many more other painful experiences since last September, including an 11 month relationship with the most vile, manipulating and controlling degenerate I have ever known. He hurt her physically and mentally and played emotional blackmail games with her...(Telling her that if she went to rehab/got a job/had friends,that he would leave her...)


She comes home on Sunday. We are excited to get her home again, but scared that this (her being in rehab for the 1st time) is going to be the easy part and that the hard part actually starts when she gets home.

I know she sounded amazing today when I talked to her.. I could hear her so Happy.. its been a long long time since I heard that kind of positive side to her.

Our household is relatively alcohol free ( I might drink a beer two or three times a year) and definitely drug free. So I know that our home is just as good as sober living.

I worry about the "old friends" she has denounced all of them including the looser boyfriend.. she knows he was manipulative and controlling.. this is a huge step for her. But I am afraid lonely might cause her to call upon some of the old friends.

I worry that I wont immediately recognize any signs of relapse or even just a slip.

I am supposed to draw up a family contract before she is discharged, but cannot find a good sample one online. The one her counselor gave me is not very helpful. I also wonder how much of it needs to be completely discussed with her.. so that she has more "Buy" into it. Maybe have a high level one for her for the discharge.. then a much more in-depth one that we all work on when she comes home.

I am extremely proud of her for finally asking for help.

I know know I need to help fix me now.. I still have lots of pain from all of the lies and deception and the angst of seeing my daughter slowly kill herself.

I just thought I would introduce myself and my story.. before I started posting. I am excited to find this forum. I am glad there is a community that I can talk about all that is going on in my head. I know it is not a substitute for Nar-anon meetings, but I know this place will help me too.:c009