Thanks so much for the replies.
I am lucky (in a separating sense, not that I didn't want them) that we don't have kids, so it simplifies things a lot. Also, I have remained 100% financially independent since the beginning. I tried to do things in a joint way, but anytime we tried to agree things he ended up drunk so it never happened. God's way of giving me what I need instead of what I want I suppose!!
Yes, I also want to be the one to leave. We built a house on a site bought from his parents, so I need to get away from not just him, but all my in-laws. Parents-in-law, sis-in-law, and bro-in-law all within 100 metres of our house
I certainly am another Irish girl Milly - nice to meet you!! Is it ever going to stop raining this "summer"?!!
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