Number one priority: no contact for any reason. For me the more active I got physically the better I felt. 20 minutes of fast walking per day really helped me get more calmer and centered. Al-anon is a lifesaver and I suggest going to as many meetings as possible. Get phone numbers so you can talk. You WILL get through this, I promise. He is a sick person but you will heal and grow as a person from this. God bless...