Dear Luv,
Are you in therapy? A good counselor is a huge help in processing your feelings and helping read a situation from all sides.
As an ACOA and a child of abuse I tend to read alot into what people say and do, I am not saying your daughter is not being disprespectful, I was not there and cannot judge that.
My wife say I take minor slights and turn them into major hurts, and sometimes I know that to be true.
Hope you can work through this.
bill