Oh, L2L, we have so much to learn about boundaries. We will do it together! I did the same thing....thought it was too soon to move in, but hindsight being 20/20, of course, I realize now I was just appeasing him, thinking that he only drank because he was insecure about my being serious enough about him to live together. oMG, hello?! I rescued him from staying at his Mom's house!! So please don't feel like a fool, or that makes me one too. Lol. But I understand, been feeling very foolish myself tonight. I think I, too, am mourning that evaporated dream, and that's why I felt empty when the jail phone calls stopped. Ironically, as I was typing this, he called from his own phone and left a vm that his mom bailed him out, that he "swerved to miss a dog" last night, and that he wants to see me tonight. Yeah, the same guy that tried to throw an air compressor box at me last night. Now I realize HE'S the fool!!