Update:
I've spoke with my sponsor, and right now we are working through another 4th and 5th step to try and dig deeper and figure out which one of my defects is taking over, again. In the mean time, I've done my best to channel every ounce of energy towards showing my wife my grattitude for her unwavering support of my disease. As for the other woman, I have backed off, and I'm sure that the next step is going to sit down with her and explain that even though I might have feelings toward her, and her me, what we are doing is wrong, and probably cannot do anything to strengthen our sobreity.
Thanks for all the suggestions and support at one of the most confusing and challenging points in my life.
Zube