Oh Niknok,
This is just awful for your stepdaughter. I wish I could fly over the pond and hug the stiff upper lip out of her.
I agree with NYC, you are doing such a great job with her and her dad. They are very lucky to have you at the helm.
Yes, let bio mom do what she will. She is very ill (oh i see that you know 17 years), I am surprised she remembers her phone number.
My father went from tyrant to pitiful in a split second when he was dying in the hospital.
It was awful to see him. Awful.
Thank you for being there for her, and for listening to me too. :ghug3
Beth