Coffee and socialization w/in the rooms NEVER helped me a single bit. It was the book work that did it period. I was in and out of the rooms for years, but not until I truly developed a "higher power consciousness" and would he be pleased with my decisions, did it work for me.
Being a people pleaser over coffee never helped me a single bit, nor did games, dances, etc.
It is a heart issue, really, not calling people or going out. While building networks helps, it really all comes down to you and God.
Lily