Chronsweet- the anger and bitterness will pass- that kept me going when he was drinking- now that he has been dry for 7 weeks I am realizing he ain't changing!! Thanks to al anon I have had to look at myself, and the anger has gone- now I am resigned to what will come! We have a very depressed 20 year old who relies on his dad and to be honest I am the only one that has a problem with him- he is ultra reasonable to everyone else