Yeesh. I'm still working on this one. I do attribute it to the way I was taught to communicate as a kid and teenager.
As Kialua mentioned, beating someone to the punch, so to speak. I do it a bit with other people, but mostly with my husband.
I'm learning, slowly...not everything has to be brought up and addressed or pointed out.
I want to confront everything...the possibilities of anything that *could* go wrong, etc., and my husband wants to avoid thinking about those things.
So I bring up something that he doesn't want to think about, and he reacts by ignoring me, which is a really big trigger for me.
I create more chaos in my head than I do in actual real life these days, but it's still a process.