Allthatsgood, he's trying to get a job and supporting by paying for sober living when he is doing work to stay sober is not enabling from where I sit.
The thing is, "they" have to try to help themselves. SM's son isn't trying...and I say that kindly because if he has serious depression issues it may be too hard...but he can try by seeing a doctor and addressing it.
Again, as a mom of an addict son, my heart goes out to all mamas going through this.
Hugs