Originally Posted by
sadmabel 
If I wouldn't have intervened to the extent that I have, he would still be using. Maybe it wasn't HIS idea to initially stop but if I waited for that he would be dead.
I resembled this attitude. I used my actions towards my daughter's recovery to validate me. It was an ego trip. I eventually came to grips that short of tying her down in a locked room ( a crime) there was nothing I could do to keep her clean or cause her to relapse.
It's unhealthy for anyone to hole up in their bedroom and sleep /watch TV all day. Life does not get put on hold just because of addiction or recovery. What about the other 16 hours a day? There are a million opportunities to volunteer...give back...make a small difference.