Why did I used to pick fights with my boyfriends?
When I was a young adult, I would often pick fights (verbal, that is) with my boyfriends. I stopped doing that later on, but I have often wondered why I did it in the first place. I have come up with two ideas about it:
--That’s how I was used to relating to other people; it’s what I learned in my family of origin.
--I was “paying back” the boyfriend for how my family had treated me.
Has anyone else had that experience?