I was working my own recovery from an eating disorder when I met, fell in love and married my exAH.
I have been angry recently like that relationship in some way set my recovery back.
Honestly I think it just scraped away at another layer of healing that I might not have been able to get to without it. I don't want to do it again, so am trying to heal not just myself, but myself in relationships now. Not saying it is easy, but it feels more gentle with myself. Yes I need to heal, but that in and of itself shifts my relationship choices...and I was not at that point when I met my exAH.
Good for you for continuing your recovery.