I agree -- I don't think it is until we don't really need to be with anyone (financially or emotionally) that we are able to be cautious and decipher warning signals in the wrong person. I am 60 and also look much younger (about 45) -- my BF is 15 years younger. He pursued me; I did not pursue him. Nothing changes much with time or age.
I don't need anyone financially, thank goodness. It was always that I felt like my life wasn't worthwhile without someone. I was married for 25 years and have been in about 5 serious long term relationships since. I really don't have that much time left at this point, but again, if this one ends -- I think I will find some other way to make my life worthwhile rather than some man I am constantly catering to -- with or without an addiction. And I do adore this one -- I just don't want my very happiness or sense of self-worth to depend on any man.