Welcome to the SR family!
Thanks for taking the time to introduce yourself. I hope you will make yourself at home by reading and posting as much as needed. We are here to support you.
I find reading in the sticky posts helpful. Sticky posts are older,permanent posts that are preserved at the top of each forum section. They are available for reading, re-reading because of the information/wisdom contained in these helpful posts.
Here are some of my favorite stickies:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html
The following link contains excerpts from the book "Under the Influence". That is an excellent resource for understanding how a person can become completely addicted to alcohol:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...influence.html
Alanon meetings are something that helped me. Alanon is based on the same 12 steps as AA, but tailored to meet the needs of the family of alcoholics. AA and Alanon meetings are free. They do pass a basket for $1 donation , if you can, to offset costs for the meeting space. AA and Alanon are spiritual based, not religious based support groups.
How to find a meeting in the US/Canada/Puerto Rico