had to change a lot of my relationships in recovery (including the one with myself).
For me this was a time of turbulence, chaos and incredible growth.
I was surprised that it was ALL my relationships
Amen! Same here. On the good side, people I wasn't particularly close to became really good friends, while my two best local friends faded out of my life. And that was OK.
Someone said to me once -- and I'm hanging on to that -- that just because relationships don't last doesn't mean they're not valuable.
And I have CyranoAK's quote on my computer: "Change your expectations to match your reality." Like Mike said -- getting mad at people for not living up to our expectations is a waste of time. It hurts when friends aren't there for us, but now you know not to expect that from her anymore.