Originally Posted by
cynical one 
It’s been a while since I’ve seen a post where the counselor actually sounds competent when dealing with addictive relationships. Throwing two very sick people together to work on relationship issues is futile until they both have been individually working on getting healthy.
He's been big on analogies and said "It's like you are both drowning in a river and your first impulse is to save the one you love. Yet that would cause you both to perish. The correct move is to save yourself first, and work from the shore to save the other person." I get that....my issue now is allowing time to pass. It's like a sense of urgency that never goes away. The constant feeling that every moment passing leads us closer to the distance that will leave us alone and apart. I just can't get past it.