painfully - I feel your anger. It pisses me off just reading your posts. Good God your AH is a moron. And I mean that in the sense that he will regret this one day. He will feel like a huge dumb-butt in front of you and your kids. So at least you get to live your life with dignity, whether or not that dignity comes from him (which it won't, so quit looking for it there - think hardware store and bread...)
Be angry. Go out to a quiet place and THROW STUFF and SCREAM obscenities. You have every right to be mad as hell.
But don't want this guy back. He just flew his true colors. Consider yourself 200+ lbs lighter in life and be thankful he is now someone else's burden. And go file for what is rightfully yours.
You deserve so much better than this. Hell, anyone does. What a moron.
Stay strong!
~T