Sorry, I know no one was calling me a fool, I know I've been a fool to accept the things I have accepted.
Wicked- I am in the day program for nursing and Childcare is taken care of during school, she will be there no matter what. The problem is while I am at work, I work sometimes until 9 which makes Childcare a little more difficult. I have had offers to help but everyone I know works too so there is some conflict of schedule. Part of my problem is that I hate to ask for help and depend on other people, but I guess I'll have to get over that if I want to have any normalcy on dd's life.
Sweetteewalls- I feel the same way as you, another reason I am here is to figure out how to help her grow into a responsible adult and not take on his problems. Yes I know getting him help or getting him out is step one, but there is so much bumps down this road.