Originally Posted by
Learn2Live 
My feeling is, he's holding you down from having a fulfilling life EmmyG. I personally would rather live alone and "single" than unhappy, sitting on the sidelines, policing someone else's drama and chaos. (((hugs))) Dream big girl, you are worth it.
You're right, except who, exactly, is holding Emmy down?
It seems like we're all programmed to fear being alone, so much so that we're willing to endure a tremendous amount of suffering to avoid it. While we remain focused on the alcoholic, we're unable to see that we have a world of choices available to us.
Fulfilling or not, life doesn't stop for anybody.