Well, I approach it like this...
If I turn my will and life over to my higher power, then I don't get to choose anymore. I don't get to and hence, I don't have to... choose. It's not an option. I don't worry about it... When I can do this, I feel the weight coming off my shoulders... Freedom to choose or the freedom to not have to choose. I choose (LOL) the latter.
A good third step, in other words.
That's how I work it anyway.