I find myself looking at his character defects. I know it isn't my place to point out his character defects. I didn't say anything to him, I kept it to myself and did my own inventory. I found the character defects I didn't like in him, I have some myself. This was the first time his character defects affected me.
Hey, you're not acting out which is a good thing, also questioning why you're doing it. I tend to do this to avoid dealing with my own issues. It's a way of saying I'm superior to you, boy do YOU have problems; it lets me put off the hard work of recovery.