Thank you all for your response. I have gone to my second alanon meeting today. I have suggested counseling to my son; but he doesn't have a problem. We went through school counselors, principal, and school superintendent. He insists he has no problem. ALL kids smoke weed and drink. I told him today that I am not going to bail him out anymore that he is on his own. I told him I'm not going to beg or plead for him to get help. Should he decide he wants help let me know; however, he is not going to come and go as he pleases. Now I have to have the strength to stick with it. I love my son with all my heart but there is nothing more that I can do for him. He has got to realize that he does have a problem. I just hope he realizes it before it's too late.