Hi T- your post brought back a lot of bad memories of a marriage to a very controlling person, when I finally left I didnt even know who I was. Its taken a while to find my part in it, glad I am seeing clearer now. (whats that smell? Oh, I stepped in the sh*t again!) Thats quite a rat cage of "recovery" he's got goin' there. I wish him good luck with all that - but, with my blinders of my own recovery on - I can't be bothered to look over there anymore. Keep keepin', T!