as long as you want to stay in this situation...
a life filled with drugs, withdrawals, relapses, rehabs, outpatient, inpatient, promises, broken promises...
you will find another co-dependent who says it's okay.
you can stay in that life as long as you want to
in my humble opinion I think its awful that your child has to be in an environment that has the trust, hope and love all sucked up by addiction. that's what happens to codependents...all their focus and life energy gets turned toward the addict and their fear of losing that connection "love"
we always say we can't believe it when an addict chooses drugs over their family
but some behaviors are more subtle and insidious....like when a codependent ends up giving the lions share of their life energy, focus and love to an addict instead of their child
plain and simple, it's neglect.
and we codependents self-justify by claiming that it would be selfish to remove our "support" no, actually, its selfish to get in the way of someone else's chance at recovery by "supporting" which is ENABLING